Dreading? Always Worse than Doing Does anyone else have a task they avoid like the plague?  I do. Hand laundry.  For reasons I’ve never pinned down, I walk around it, sidestep it, won’t meet its… Read More
Want to Get Better at Something? Just Don’t Do It Given that my last post was about “just doing it,” it’s possible that this week’s theme might give you a bit of whiplash. Why? Because this week I am all… Read More
If People are Making Your Holidays More ‘Harumph,” than “Ho, Ho, Ho,” Try This ‘Tis the season! Ostensibly… For many, the holidays are more stressful than stupendous, however, with arguments erupting over everything from what to do, (“We always play board games…”) to what… Read More
Stevie Wonder Might “Just” Have Been Calling to Say He Loves You…. For the Rest of Us? It’s Just Not a Great Choice Stevie Wonder Might “Just” Have Been Calling to Say He Loves You…. For the Rest of Us? It’s Just Not a Great Choice Many of you reached out to me… Read More
“Is There Anything Else I Should Be Asking You?” Recently, I was listening to an interview on NPR. At the end of the session the interviewer said, “Is there anything else I should be asking you?” This struck me… Read More
It’s Never a “Good Question” As I mentioned in last week’s post, my preference for beginning a meeting or presentation is to start with a story, statistic or question. After that? State your question policy:… Read More
Tools for (Potentially) Head-Exploding Conversations Every now and then we find ourselves in conversations where our internal monologue is, “How is it even possible that this person doesn’t understand why this is irritating/upsetting/disruptive?” Which often… Read More
Control What You Can: Zooming In On Your Next Zoom With the world feeling oh-so-slightly out of control, I thought I would offer a few ways to help you zoom in and control what you can—namely your next Zoom meeting.… Read More
What Tomatoes Can Teach Us About Trust—and Asking Effective Questions The last few weeks I have been making an enormous amount of tomato sauce and enrolled in an online course with 60 other students. What do these two things have… Read More
Strike While the Iron is Cold: Using Nonviolent Communication to Change Your Life First, let me say that I know “strike while the iron is hot,” is a blacksmithing term, not an ironing term. As I had no blacksmithing equipment in my home,… Read More