What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do (Or, What I Learned from Being Really, Really Sick)

Some of you may have noticed (or not– you have busy lives) that it’s been awhile since my last Wow of the Week.

5 weeks, to be exact.

Without getting into the nitty-gritty, I haven’t written because I’ve been sick: 12 days-in-the-hospital-kind-of-sick.

 Then I came home and was sick some more.

Here is what happens to someone with cracked-out control issues when they get sick: they get crazy.

So I spent the first bit of my time being sick berating myself for everything I did “wrong” that led to my being sick.

When I wasn’t doing thatI obsessively strategized about how I was going to “work around” being sick so I could still do everything I supposedly “had” to do.

Here’s a tip: this does not promote health and healing.

Thankfully, at this point my friend Tom stepped in and pointed out that what I needed wasn’t a change in my situation: it was the fortitude to handle it with grace.

This was lifesaving.

Why? Because it allowed me to stop beating my brains against my circumstances: it allowed me to see that I didn’t do anything ‘wrong’ and that– for the moment– there wasn’t any way to change the situation.

And I thought this was important information for any of you who might be feeling stuck, trapped, frustrated…pole-axed by something in your life….

 Because the fact is, sometimes you didn’t do anything ‘wrong’ and sometimes—for the moment– there isn’t any changing your situation.

And I wanted you to know that if you’re in one of these periods of your life abandoning the illusion of control and instead scrabbling around for fortitude may do wonders to help you manage your situation with –at least a moment or two– greater peace of mind.