Five Ways to Deal With Passive-Aggressive Colleagues

Rachel Farrell, Special to CareerBuilder

On just about every reality TV show, from ‘The Bachelor’ to ‘Jersey Shore’ to ‘The Real Housewives of’ (pick a city — any city), we hear the same thing: “I don’t like drama.”

But disdain for drama isn’t limited to our favorite reality stars. It’s also apparent in the workplace.

Think about your colleagues for a second. Can you think of one who constantly gossips, sabotages information or makes snarky remarks followed by “just joking!” Maybe he says “everything is fine” — but he says so with an attitude. All of these behaviors are only a few of the ways passive aggressiveness manifests itself at work.

But why?

“The reason people are passive aggressive comes down to fear — fear that they aren’t qualified to do their job or that you might be outshining them or that there aren’t enough raises and bonuses to go around,” says Frances Cole Jones, author of ‘The Wow Factor: The 33 Things You Must (and Must Not) Do to Guarantee Your Edge in Today’s Business World.

Passive-aggressive people tend show hostile behaviors but try to do so in subtle ways, most likely because they don’t want to endure conflict. More often than not, however, this type of behavior is easily identified — which can lead to consequences for the passive aggressor in the office.

“The passive-aggressive person may feel important for spreading the gossip or they seem competent for having the information in-hand. They get the cheap laugh but the consequences will eventually arrive,” Cole Jones warns. “They will get a reputation as a gossip, a saboteur or a ‘class clown.'”

Choosing not to participate in passive aggressiveness at work — either by calling out a co-worker on his or her conduct and/or by not exhibiting such behavior yourself — can also reap benefits.

“These people gain respect in the eyes of their colleagues and, most importantly, their behavior is noted by their C-level staff,” she says. “They are reassured they have the potential to join their ranks.”

If you have passive-aggressive colleagues, Cole Jones offers these five tips to help deal with their behavior in the office:

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